A CHANCE TO SAY NO BY JAMES PURDY
strong word. Few have the fortitude to utilize it. People consider ‘Yes’ to be
more positive. Yet by saying ‘yes’ to one too many things one loses power over
situations. Rather they choose to go along with everything regardless of what
their actual expression might be. Disappointment arises from every ‘No’ ever
uttered. Sometimes to avoid rejecting there will be another way to try and
influence others. Creating untenable situations is the easiest form of avoiding
the dreaded ‘No’ word putting the responsibility on someone else. For rejection
requires more than one party: there has to be the invitation along with the
interested individual or group.
plans are harder to reject. The more time that gets poured into an event the
harder it is to avoid. Society looks down upon saying ‘No’ to trips or school.
Individuals are considered flaky or dropouts neither one implying a positive
thing. Breakups have equal heft. For broken up relationships there is a power
dynamic between the rejected and the rejecter. Anger is focused towards the
rejecter with the rejected receiving moral support. Considering the alleged
strength of the rejecter there is little reason to comfort them. On the other
hand the rejected gets the sympathy for being a member of the downtrodden.
Nobody ever sympathizes with the supposed position of power holder.
is inevitable in any situation. Relationships are no exception. Governments
suffer from manipulation. A relationship with the government and governed
assumes a lot of things. Laws made by governments can be skirted around
particularly for trips overseas. Despite how comfortable things might seem they
always seem better elsewhere. Judgment at home is predictable. Away from
familiar surroundings judgment can become far harsher. Without any reference
the panic can become sever. It is for this reason that customs officials are
terrifying creatures analyzing everything trying to understand people in single
members remain the only individuals who can understand one another in single
glances. The way families deal with themselves varies tremendously. Some
families choose to enforce harsh rule over their offspring. Others choose to
adopt the habits and styles of siblings. Bonds between siblings can become
extremely strong. Destruction of old selves occurs in order to become their
siblings, to try and emulate their beloved ones. Adopting style, job prospects,
interests, these are small ways of trying to become adults.
course such methods are additional forms of rejection. Choosing to say ‘No’
they decide what part of themselves to reject and what parts to accept. To do
this proper they must manipulate to have others reject, convincing themselves
that they are in the right. Anybody can say ‘Yes’ but it takes a specific kind
of individual to say ‘No’.