Therapists say all kinds of crazy stuff. Nobody who goes to a therapist knows the therapist is crazy because of all the mental gymnastics the therapist does. Sometimes the therapist is right. Relationships do not belong on the rocks only high-quality liquors do. If those relationships are destroyed due to a fondness for on the rocks liquor beverages well then that’s probably just coincidence. Honesty comes about from those moments of vulnerability. No relationship is perfect they take time and effort. At some point the wrong ones eventually peter out to leave room for the success.
Universities are full of relationships. That’s the way academia works. Academics like to mate in order to create the next generation of students. By teaching individuals as a Ponzi scheme the scheme works as long as there is enough of a next generation. Every generation eventually ends in terms of relevance. Cities too ebb and flow away. Locals remain the same trying to keep all the good places to themselves. Dates are clumsy by nature that is the way they are designed, especially first dates. Nervousness reigns supreme. Little details appear on the first date the first impressions that sink into a person’s mind. These pieces reverberate for the remainder of the relationship for both good and bad.
Multiple relationships at the same time serve as a form of hedging. Bets on a person require this level of effort. With all these people in the mix one is bound to succeed. There are too many people on earth to simply have all of them as an ill fit. For those that are unable to form meaningful relationships there is always the joy of becoming a hermit. Follow-up dates on the first date are a good sign each additional date as a way of getting further invested into a person until a romantic connection is fully formed.
To know someone in the biblical sense is to have sex with them. Relationships, romantic ones, can include sex but not always. Sex can make a relationship different and it can never return back to the way it was. People give a lot away during the act of sex all their innermost desires in a moment of vulnerability. Eventually this vulnerability leads to bad decisions and leads to lust, which can lead people astray. What makes vulnerability so difficult to disclose is how honest, how painfully honest it can be and no one is ready for that level of disclosure.