Fatherhood remains a unique concept in the world. On one hand there is the ultimate desire to finally take care of another. With this responsibility the previous life lived floods back into the mind. That means everything that a future father is about to face is informed by what they grow up with for better and worse. Sometimes a childhood is idyllic left tinted by the wonderful rose-colored glasses of nostalgia. Happiness serves certainly as a part of a childhood but that amount that takes up depends on the father.
Across the world there are plenty of less than stellar fathers. Rather than simply use that as an excuse for passing on that bad behavior like some sad inheritance, some see it as a challenge. Despite what they grew up with they will do better with their own children. The memories of what they dealt with, the unnecessary insults, the gruffness, and isolation inform what they will do differently. No two lifetimes ought to be alike and the possibility of change can help to create strong loving families.
The way a child is raised determines the rest of their life. Is it better to be brought up so strictly that when they rebel the rebellion is that extreme, or is it better to be given freedom to make mistakes? Fathers think about this and wonder what they could be doing differently in life. Sometimes the father simply goes on autopilot assuming that all of their interests will be their children’s interests but that is not always the case. With the passage of time children gain their own personalities. That development results in the first test of parenthood: how does one support their children’s unique budding personalities. It can be impossible to be fully realized.
Of course the trickiest part of it all is knowing when to start. The joy and terror that follows the decision to become a parent is real. For fathers are strange creatures they live varied lives. Plenty of fathers act like “well whatever I’m hanging out in my man cave please don’t make too much noise”. However counteracting that are fathers who are there who try to help their children grow into teenagers and even into fully-functioning adults. With such small children, mere babies, it can be difficult to predict exactly what they will hold onto and what they will forget. Memory has no limitations and is never the same for any two people. Thus, fathers ought to be good to their children and they will receive the same care in kind.